Today's the eve of our 5 years wedding anniversary. It seems just yesterday but 5 years has passed so quickly. Coincedentally, my bro's wedding is this sun (yes, juz a day after mine..) and we are now busy preparing ourselves, and helping out, that it kinda remind us of our own wedding 5 yrs ago.
To me, these 5 years has been fantastic. I'm blessed to know that Uncle Pig's the right person for me early, and because of this, we got married when I was barely 25.. haha.. young age, i feel, in today's time to settle down. But nevertheless, I was SURE that it was the right time, and with the right man, we tied the knot.
Both of us are not perfect, we have our shortfalls and of course, things that we dont always see eye to eye on.. But nevertheless, I still feel that God is kind enough to bless me with him, cause although he's not the perfect man, he's the man most suited for me! Perfect! I remember 5 yrs ago, that I was not overly involved with the wedding preparations. In fact, he did most, if not all of them. I told him flatly that I only wanted to marry him, and nothing else matters. (So sweet right, haha..) And because of this, I had the luxury of concentrating on my work, while he focus on the details and the preparations. He only gave me 1 task : Rem to appear on 11th Jun.. haha..
Fast forward 5 years, and now, he's busily doing our much overdue housework, while I'm juz blogging.. When Joy's about 1 yr old, he decided to quit full time so as to take care of Joy and also to serve God in his ways. I supported him, and became the breadwinner overnight. To a certain extent, I feel blessed. Bcoz he takes full charge of all the other things again, so that I can concentrate once again on my work.. compared to some of my other friends, I'm thankful to God for bringing him to me.. bcoz i cant imagine my life without you, nor if I had to do housework based on the social norms. God knew what I need, and provided someone, who could take care of me, love me, and bring the best out of me. Truly, if I had to be a full-time housewife, I think i would go crazy! If my hubby were someone who expect me to do the chores, I think life would be miserable..Haha.. but God knows and God provides, when we ask.
God, I pray that we continue to seek you in everything that we do, and that I pray that I will be able complement Uncle Pig, as his lifetime partner, his companion, his soulmate and everything. Lord, I pray for wisdom in settling our Baby Bakery.. you are the provider of everything, and I just pray for wisdom to lead the life in yr plans...
Uncle Pig, although I know you will not be reading this.. but I just wanna you to know that I appreciate your efforts in taking care of the family all these years.. and I know that this is juz one of the many 5 years to come.. I love you !
Friday, June 10, 2011
Thursday, June 9, 2011
开心早餐！
今早被香喷喷的爱情早餐弄醒。。。
看到他一大早就起来准备，让我非常感动。这时的我很希望每天都会有home cooked breakfast! 啊！如过我不需要与别人分享他，那该多好！还是把生意卖了吧 & concentrate on taking care of joy n me? Tsk tsk...
看到他一大早就起来准备，让我非常感动。这时的我很希望每天都会有home cooked breakfast! 啊！如过我不需要与别人分享他，那该多好！还是把生意卖了吧 & concentrate on taking care of joy n me? Tsk tsk...
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Love Thy Neighbour
The Greatest Commandment
34 Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. 35 One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: 36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[d] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
- Matthew 22: 34 - 40
Today, I've been prompted to write something about Love Your Neighbour. In the bible, God repeatedly tells us to love our neighbour, as He loves us. Love your neighbour as yourself.
Did God meant fellow brothers and sisters in Christ? Or did HE also include everyone, saved on unsaved? Several times in the bible, he says that loving our neighbors is part of God's plan to evangelize them. Our love demonstrates what God and His kingdom are like. And much as evangelizing them is important, the key in His commandment is to Love everyone as stated in here:
God’s Love and Ours
7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God - 1 John 4:7
So certainly when God says to Love our Neighbour, He meant to love everyone, and especially non-Christians, cause it is through our actions that will bring them near, and our actions will also reflect what God and His kingdom are like.
But how or what should we do? How can we go about doing it? And does that mean imposing our stands on them? No...The first thing we should do is to pray for them. As a human, we are limited in how we can help them, but God is unlimited in how He can help. The greatest thing we can do for them is seriously pray for them.
God can do more for them in 1 miniute than we can in a lifetime. But God does not force His blessings on anyone without an invitation.
Lord, I pray that much as we hope and pray for our neighbour's salvation, we have to continously remember that yr commandment was to Love All, as ourselves and I pray that it is through our actions that draw people nearer to you, and not further away from you. Lord, I pray for wisdom to say the right things to them, and I also pray that you open their hearts, but most importantly, I pray for patience. Patience for the harvesters to harvest the fruits, and faith that the fruits will be ripen in your timing.
Friday, June 3, 2011
Blue Day...
Just received a text from a colleague telling me that she's pregnant.. have gotten news of it a few days ago but just felt weird then that she didnt let me know herself.. but yes, she told me today ah.. and i'm happy for her..
and each time an incident like this will always tempt me to consider if I've even tried ALL ways to be pregnant? I mean, what if I would have strike on my first try with IVF? What if TCM works for us? What if and what iff.....
Much as I'm tempted, but 我已经把我的心情收拾好了，也不是很想在度地然它受伤害。可是又有一部分的我觉得如果我没有施竟我知道的所有办法，我是否会后悔能？
就这样想着想着就让我非常的辛苦。。。
Lord, I just pray that you give me strength and wisdom to decide what's best for us. Lord, I pray that you grant me wisdom to decide on the route most suitable for us, for my frail heart, cause you know me best and I know that each challenge you give us, is never too big. Lord, I pray that you guide us along.. each step and let me know which way bah... In Jesus name I pray,
- Amen -
and each time an incident like this will always tempt me to consider if I've even tried ALL ways to be pregnant? I mean, what if I would have strike on my first try with IVF? What if TCM works for us? What if and what iff.....
Much as I'm tempted, but 我已经把我的心情收拾好了，也不是很想在度地然它受伤害。可是又有一部分的我觉得如果我没有施竟我知道的所有办法，我是否会后悔能？
就这样想着想着就让我非常的辛苦。。。
Lord, I just pray that you give me strength and wisdom to decide what's best for us. Lord, I pray that you grant me wisdom to decide on the route most suitable for us, for my frail heart, cause you know me best and I know that each challenge you give us, is never too big. Lord, I pray that you guide us along.. each step and let me know which way bah... In Jesus name I pray,
- Amen -
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
女人的矛盾
Ever since our quarrel tat day , uncle pig has been treating me extremely well.. On mon we went for buffet lunch n he offered to go bk home early to tidy the house n cook dinner if I could pick joy bk..n he even did housework!! N on tue he offered to exercise w me, followed by Pirates of the Carribean (Gold Class!!) ... Much as I'm enjoying all the attention n time spend, it juz made me more anxious abt his biz.. Is he able to even cope w it or is he doing the "be a good lover" for these 4 mths n hopefully I will give him some leeway?
So guilty tt I even hv these thoughts... Arrgh.. Much as I'm trying juz to enjoy this moment together w him, I can't stop worrying for him.. Such is the paradox of women.. Complain when the men forgets , but worry if theres another agenda when he treats u slightly better .. Okie gotten stop here coz movies starting
So guilty tt I even hv these thoughts... Arrgh.. Much as I'm trying juz to enjoy this moment together w him, I can't stop worrying for him.. Such is the paradox of women.. Complain when the men forgets , but worry if theres another agenda when he treats u slightly better .. Okie gotten stop here coz movies starting
Lunchie
Had lunch with one of my ex-colleagues last week.. She's in a similar situation as me , juz tat she's juz beginning to start to her course of fertility treatments while I've already at almost the end of it.. Thot I met up w her to lend her some support n encouragement..
Besides the fertility medicine, she's only taking an injection per cycle.. Not really intrusive yet n really at the tip of the cycle I told her.. I also shared w her the technical as well as emotional parts of it when I was at her stage.. Right now, she's juz feeling ultra emo abt the whole thing, which is something I can completely relate to! She asked how did I even survive the whole of the 2 yrs juz trying when it seems so difficult for time to pass each cycle.. I'm relieved .. Not relieved tat she's going thru it now.. But relieved tat this is really a thing of the past for me.. Tat I can relate as a bystander n not as one who's still in it.. It juz seem only recently tat I was like her.. Waiting.. Waiting for it to happen.. Ovulation.. Then the test.. Then ovulation n the cycle repeats again n again.. Such tat we give up almost every other thing in life juz for it to happen.. Not exercising for fear tat the embroy might not b stable ; not traveling ; not willing to expand my biz, not changing joy's bed (coz if no.2 were to come along, then maybe a double deck bed would be more practical) and the many many things that we daren't do coz if no.2 were to come along.. blah blah blah...I'm juz thankful tat in the midst of my frustration n struggles, God was always there for me.. Tat He drops a verse or two juz to brighten my spirits up, tat He drops angels ard me to comfort me when I needed them.. He was there all the time n to which I was truly grateful.
I juz pray now for thus friend of mine, tat she be strong n draw close to God in the midst of this.. Coz much as we r in similar situations, she juz felt tat God shldnt hv subject us to such agony esp when we were willing parents to b; like y cant God juz give infertility to pple who don't even wanna hv kids n those who want , let them hv plentiful w/o difficulties.. To which I share w her James 1: 2-4, which im glad tat I always kept it in my hp..
Lord, I juz pray tat she will look to you in all situations ba.. Coz much as i wanna share, lord I pray tat u open her ears n heart, tat she know tat in all situations , we should know tat it is in Yr plans n even though we don't understand now, what will b achieved is tat we will grow to be stronger n better .. - Amen
- which reminds me tat I should blog abt another sermon tat I attended recently.. Will b posting tat shortly.. Hehe...
Besides the fertility medicine, she's only taking an injection per cycle.. Not really intrusive yet n really at the tip of the cycle I told her.. I also shared w her the technical as well as emotional parts of it when I was at her stage.. Right now, she's juz feeling ultra emo abt the whole thing, which is something I can completely relate to! She asked how did I even survive the whole of the 2 yrs juz trying when it seems so difficult for time to pass each cycle.. I'm relieved .. Not relieved tat she's going thru it now.. But relieved tat this is really a thing of the past for me.. Tat I can relate as a bystander n not as one who's still in it.. It juz seem only recently tat I was like her.. Waiting.. Waiting for it to happen.. Ovulation.. Then the test.. Then ovulation n the cycle repeats again n again.. Such tat we give up almost every other thing in life juz for it to happen.. Not exercising for fear tat the embroy might not b stable ; not traveling ; not willing to expand my biz, not changing joy's bed (coz if no.2 were to come along, then maybe a double deck bed would be more practical) and the many many things that we daren't do coz if no.2 were to come along.. blah blah blah...I'm juz thankful tat in the midst of my frustration n struggles, God was always there for me.. Tat He drops a verse or two juz to brighten my spirits up, tat He drops angels ard me to comfort me when I needed them.. He was there all the time n to which I was truly grateful.
I juz pray now for thus friend of mine, tat she be strong n draw close to God in the midst of this.. Coz much as we r in similar situations, she juz felt tat God shldnt hv subject us to such agony esp when we were willing parents to b; like y cant God juz give infertility to pple who don't even wanna hv kids n those who want , let them hv plentiful w/o difficulties.. To which I share w her James 1: 2-4, which im glad tat I always kept it in my hp..
Lord, I juz pray tat she will look to you in all situations ba.. Coz much as i wanna share, lord I pray tat u open her ears n heart, tat she know tat in all situations , we should know tat it is in Yr plans n even though we don't understand now, what will b achieved is tat we will grow to be stronger n better .. - Amen
- which reminds me tat I should blog abt another sermon tat I attended recently.. Will b posting tat shortly.. Hehe...
Monday, May 30, 2011
Life choices
It's gonna be a looooong entry n u've been warned...
It's been such a long time since I wrote abt anything.. N there's so many things tt I wanna blog abt..
Mayb I shall blog on the ultra major quarrel / discussion of my life.. It may sound amusing now but we've went thru many sessions lor n I'm sure when sept comes it will b another round of intense emotions...
??? Haven bakery has always been a baby of uncle pig.. N all along I've been pretty supportive of it.. Irregardless of whether if it brought in a decent income.. Until when our dear family oriented man kept doing non - work related things during official HB hrs.. To the extent it really pissed me off.. Coz I can keep nagging at him on sun when he says he gotta run errands on mon n can't wk n this can KEEP Repeating for 5 sundays!! It's frustrating coz I sound like a broken record or I'm always the "off" person not allowing him to do this n tat..
So abt a few weeks ago, I told him tat he actually has 3 options :
A) employer/ entrepreneur of HB
- he has flexibility of time n orders taking, promotions n whatsoever but he will hv to manage his own expenses
B) employee
- fixed wkg hrs, fixed salary, no control on the kind of orders coz as long as I feel tat the order is reasonable / profitable then he has to accept it.
- juz like a normal person doing normal job tasks
C) Home maker
- this was only thrown to him last week coz I seriously feel tat if HB can't even afford to give him a decent income, then y shld he b wasting his time there?
- Y shld he spent his Fridays, Saturdays on the orders? N y shld I sacrifice my Sat for him? It doesn't make any biz sense coz here I am, giving him a fixed salary, but bcoz of this, I need to hire another part-time cleaner; find baby sitter arrangment on sat n blah blah...
I mean if tats the case then I rather he juz stayed at home so tat the house willb cleaned , I get clean , ironed clothes n home cooked food!! I don't really needy hubby to hv a promising career coz I feel tat being a homemaker might b the best for him since he's always a family oriented person... But if today he wants to concentrate on his "career" then I will b the supportive wife n b behind him.. But then the career muz give him a reasonable amt of wages.. Otherwise it didn't make any economic sense..
This may sound unpleasing to the ear but these are hard facts tt we need to face in life.. We all need to earn a living to breathe right?
So yes, despite all the hard truths , I told him my thoughts.. N much as it seem a pity to close down HB (if he chose option C) , that's a fact of life.. At least his time can juz b divided bet joy n I.. Haha.. N not with another competitor!
His reply consist of a few parts..
1) he was not aware abt my kpi expectations , which I told him tat I've said it to him many many times..
2) moving forward he will work fr 11am- 6pm for HB and come bk do the household chores.. Until HB manages to pay him a decent income ..
3) give him freedom to manage till our rental lease expires in sep '11 n by then he would hv a gd gauge on which option to take.. Which I agreed..
Although I was a little concerned.. What if really can't manage then really close? Isn't tt a pity? Haha.. Aiya but I shall leave it to God n him ba.. If he did his best n really it's not profitable then also not a bad choice mah.. Plus if I don't push him, he will nv b motivated n have the desire to excel ah..
- reminded myself again tat man has to do his best n let God do the rest..
I'm glad to finally get it off my chest.. It's been bothering me for weeks.. N I'm thankful tat despite everything tat I've said to uncle pig, it remains professional.. No hard feelings.. Haha.. I can't imagine another person taking it as well as him.. Yes tats y im thankful for him.. N I hope tat as a couple we will be able to cover each other's blindspots n complement each other...
S0, we shall see how it goes in sept... Mixed feelings.. But we shall c la
It's been such a long time since I wrote abt anything.. N there's so many things tt I wanna blog abt..
Mayb I shall blog on the ultra major quarrel / discussion of my life.. It may sound amusing now but we've went thru many sessions lor n I'm sure when sept comes it will b another round of intense emotions...
??? Haven bakery has always been a baby of uncle pig.. N all along I've been pretty supportive of it.. Irregardless of whether if it brought in a decent income.. Until when our dear family oriented man kept doing non - work related things during official HB hrs.. To the extent it really pissed me off.. Coz I can keep nagging at him on sun when he says he gotta run errands on mon n can't wk n this can KEEP Repeating for 5 sundays!! It's frustrating coz I sound like a broken record or I'm always the "off" person not allowing him to do this n tat..
So abt a few weeks ago, I told him tat he actually has 3 options :
A) employer/ entrepreneur of HB
- he has flexibility of time n orders taking, promotions n whatsoever but he will hv to manage his own expenses
B) employee
- fixed wkg hrs, fixed salary, no control on the kind of orders coz as long as I feel tat the order is reasonable / profitable then he has to accept it.
- juz like a normal person doing normal job tasks
C) Home maker
- this was only thrown to him last week coz I seriously feel tat if HB can't even afford to give him a decent income, then y shld he b wasting his time there?
- Y shld he spent his Fridays, Saturdays on the orders? N y shld I sacrifice my Sat for him? It doesn't make any biz sense coz here I am, giving him a fixed salary, but bcoz of this, I need to hire another part-time cleaner; find baby sitter arrangment on sat n blah blah...
I mean if tats the case then I rather he juz stayed at home so tat the house willb cleaned , I get clean , ironed clothes n home cooked food!! I don't really needy hubby to hv a promising career coz I feel tat being a homemaker might b the best for him since he's always a family oriented person... But if today he wants to concentrate on his "career" then I will b the supportive wife n b behind him.. But then the career muz give him a reasonable amt of wages.. Otherwise it didn't make any economic sense..
This may sound unpleasing to the ear but these are hard facts tt we need to face in life.. We all need to earn a living to breathe right?
So yes, despite all the hard truths , I told him my thoughts.. N much as it seem a pity to close down HB (if he chose option C) , that's a fact of life.. At least his time can juz b divided bet joy n I.. Haha.. N not with another competitor!
His reply consist of a few parts..
1) he was not aware abt my kpi expectations , which I told him tat I've said it to him many many times..
2) moving forward he will work fr 11am- 6pm for HB and come bk do the household chores.. Until HB manages to pay him a decent income ..
3) give him freedom to manage till our rental lease expires in sep '11 n by then he would hv a gd gauge on which option to take.. Which I agreed..
Although I was a little concerned.. What if really can't manage then really close? Isn't tt a pity? Haha.. Aiya but I shall leave it to God n him ba.. If he did his best n really it's not profitable then also not a bad choice mah.. Plus if I don't push him, he will nv b motivated n have the desire to excel ah..
- reminded myself again tat man has to do his best n let God do the rest..
I'm glad to finally get it off my chest.. It's been bothering me for weeks.. N I'm thankful tat despite everything tat I've said to uncle pig, it remains professional.. No hard feelings.. Haha.. I can't imagine another person taking it as well as him.. Yes tats y im thankful for him.. N I hope tat as a couple we will be able to cover each other's blindspots n complement each other...
S0, we shall see how it goes in sept... Mixed feelings.. But we shall c la
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